Question by : How can my daughter tell a friend to use deodorant without hurting her feelings?
My daughters friend (who is 12 years) smells bad. I drive them to church twice a week and every time she gets into the car, she smells bad. I don’t know if she use deodorant or not but she smells bad. I need my daughter to tell her that she needs to use it but I don’t want her to tell her specifically. I don’t want my daughters friend to fell bad and upset. How should my daughter do it?
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Answer by Double_Cheese_Burger
get her to talk about the fragences or brands she likes of deoderant, hopefully she’ll just start if her peers are using them.
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Be creative. Take them shopping like to Walmart or somewhere and go in the deodorant part. Then, have your daughter start a topic about which one she likes to wear and hopefully the friend can join in and say which one she gets. Then, just buy it for her.
You daughter shouldn’t. Or do you really expect a 12-year-old to find a tactful way of saying that when you, an adult, can’t even seem to manage it? As I recall, “12-year-old girl” is not synonymous with “tact.” This really isn’t even any of your business. She’s young yet and her parents might not allow her to use deodorant. It’s not a necessity until puberty after all. She may not be showering enough. This is her parents’ job, not yours. So grin and bear it and stock up on air freshener for the car.
maybe you can find out when her b-day is and then get her like one of those packages with all the smelly-good stuff. she’ll probably want to use it.
Do you know for sure that the girl takes a bath at least?
One of the signs of molestation is not bathing, it’s why I’m asking.
People will purposely smell bad thinking their violator will leave them alone.
Other than that, she will just have to tell the girl, make it sound like someone else said it.